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Hi Princess,
My boyfriend is the youngest of 9 siblings so hes the baby of the family and a little immature for his age. And I am the eldest of the family. Also he has had a controlling mother and sisters because they also were much older than him. Then he had a girlfriend in school and they went out for 8 years and then she just left him and married anohter guy from her own caste because her parents arranged it, and also because they were both younger that time and of the same age so she was a marriagiable age and he was just out of college still starting his career. His elder brothers are married and he thinks all his sisters in laws are witches , gosh I dont know what to say to that. He also thinks that I am gorgeous looking and all the men are looking at me all the time, so I should wear short dresses only when I am wiht him, sometimes its nice because I feel protected but again its like I dont know when to do what. I also think he is nice looking, he is really concious about his looks and I dont give it much thought, and it doesnt bother me much when he tells me , that such and such girl was hitting on him. These are some reasons which make him childish and insecure according to me.
Also when we had a fall out two to three times in our relationship, because of my parents pressure and also because I thought our relationship was over and because I want to settle down I met a few guys, no not dating, somehting like arranged. I thought it will distract me and maybe I could even get out of this relationship with my boyfriend because its going nowhere but nothing worked out , I guess as I do love him. Also the times we broke up, I told him that my parents want me to meet other guys and he was in all seriousness about how since we cant go on, I should meet other people and go on with my life. Anyway maybe its partly my fault.
He has never really forgiven me for meeting other people. Hes been jealous all the time we have been together and I have to admit sometimes I like it or initially rather and now its kind or irritating because he will make me feel guilty. While for some reason I dont have a way with words and he went out with my friend so many times and I just dont worry about it and even if I mention it he says that you know theres nothing. Sometimes I think what am I doing wiht a person like this but its like , cant live with him and cant live without him.

By Princess on Saturday, June 05, 1999 - 05:13 am:

Seema,

You are in a relationship where both you and your boyfriend are on different time clocks of life. Unfortunately this happens a lot when women start thinking of settling down and having a more meaningful mature relationship men aren't always ready to reciprocate. While I'm sure he loves you he's perhaps not ready to settle down and get married.

Obviously things in his past are part of the problem where he hasn't quite "grown up". You are on just different mental clocks. Until both of you end up on the same plain of thought you will continue having these problems. He is obviously confused because part of him knows that he isn't giving you want you want and deserve and so he should let you go and see other guys but part of him is selfish and wants to have you to himself.

The decision to stay with him or leave him is in your hands. You can stay and make it work and be patient with him to catch up with you mentally or you can move on and find yourself someone who is more emotionally stable and mentally ready. But that is your call.

Remember however love doesn't always resolve everything. With love you need patience and understanding and time and energy and effort and the list goes on. Ultimately you should do what makes you happy because in the long run you should have to live with yourself.

By Jat Punjabi on Thursday, June 17, 1999 - 05:07 am:

Nice article:

Your eyes meet across the crowded room. The background din of the party fades away in the click of magnetic connection. He is brooding and mysterious; he cocks his head as if to acknowledge some secret only you and he can share. A bond. A coupling. Later, he touches your arm as you make casual small talk, and you reach out to brush a stray hair from his forehead. He only has eyes for you; his banter is for your ears alone.

Then, just before the punch line to his funniest story, your best friend Susan walks up and takes her husband by the hand. "Don't forget — we have dinner reservations, the four of us, for next Friday night," she reminds you.

You were flirting. You've been flirting with your best friend's husband Bob for 15 years. But you can't assess the damage until later, in that intimate moment when your own husband murmurs in your ear, "What was with that ridiculous tie Bob was wearing, anyway?" If you laugh guiltlessly, then the flirting was innocent fun. If you feel a twinge of disloyalty, then your friendship with Susan — and maybe even your marriage — may be in trouble.

Now it's one thing to flirt with a stranger whom you may never see again — but another thing entirely to flirt with someone you already know. Flirting with strangers is a diversion; flirting with an acquaintance may land you in some seriously scalding water. And flirting with a good pal's man is almost certain to undermine that friendship. At best, it's annoying; at worst, it leads to the erosion of trust, then heartbreak, and even infidelity.

Understand that it's fine to be charming. But there's a fine line between charm and flirtation. Charm is a skill many of us learn early and practice often; it is a subtle means of extorting those attentions that are the currency of our social and professional lives. We exude it, if not effortlessly, then at least without regard to the sexual availability of those around us. When does charm become flirtation? When we deploy it unconsciously to bolster our sense of our own attractiveness, or when we use it purposefully as a tool in the mating dance. You see, flirting is always about sex.

Flirtations with people we know tend to fall into several broad categories. Office dalliances are probably the riskiest. Despite several decades of civil litigation and sexual harassment verdicts, romance in the workplace is still common — and still a terrible idea for anyone with a significant other on the other side of the cubicles.

The temptations are obvious. Many of us spend more time with co-workers than we do with our friends and lovers; is it any wonder that we start to confuse rumors of impending mergers with the intimate details of a private life? Time for a reality check: A focus group is not a family. Smoldering glances across the copy machine may escalate to a stolen kiSs in the stairwell — but they will put a damper on your working relationship forever when you both come to your senses. Office romance is just not worth it unless it comes with stock options.

If you persist in regarding coquettishness as a recreational sport, your safest bet is to flirt with longtime friends. After a certain number of years, the window of opportunity for turning platonic interactions into love interactions has closed and you both know it. You're both comfortable in your current roles. And indeed, if some of these friends are recycled ex-boyfriends, a certain license to flirt is grandfathered in. You tried the love thing but you've opted for a different kind of intimacy.

The one thing that you should never, ever do is flirt with Bob — or the husbands or lovers of any of your friends. You may dissemble and tell yourself that Bob is a friend in his own right, that he therefore falls into the category of safe flirt. But if you're honest about what you're doing, you'll acknowledge the fact that there's one-upwomanship involved. You're not just flirting with Bob, you're also competing with Susan. Remember — that's a two-way street. Take a step backward and look at your own mate and who he's flirting with. And keep in mind how that makes you feel.

So it's late at night, the party is long over; your husband is snoring next to you on the couch and Jay Leno is wearing the worst necktie you ever saw. Well maybe not the worst, you think. Your husband was right: Bob's was pretty awful. And wasn't this the third time he's told you that particular joke? Susan really should make him stop after the third margarita. Congratulations! You've made it back to the safety of solid land.

That doesn't mean that you won't flirt with Bob again. But it does mean that in your heart you know he isn't a knight in shining armor. He's just a guy. There are plenty guys out there. The best one may no longer flirt with you, but he does rub your feet and bring you breakfast in bed.

And maybe if you kiss him very gently, he'll wake up and want to play.

By Anonymous on Friday, July 02, 1999 - 07:13 am:

I am also new to this site so forgive my question if it is redundant. I have seen several responses on the multi-faceted topic of American women dating Indian men. What is the liklihood of Indian women dating - or even marrying - American men? What does an Indian woman (whether American or Indian born) seek in a relationship with another?

By annie on Wednesday, August 18, 1999 - 02:30 am:

dear anonymous, hello, i am an american woman married to an indian man. i think there are many american men who would think of dating or marring an indian woman! why not they date an marry chinese,philipino,hispanic,black woman etc. food may be an issue tho! unless of course she was born here an knows american cookin or the american likes indian food! if the indian woman was born here it would probably work out even better!

By Anonymous on Wednesday, August 18, 1999 - 04:52 am:

I don't mean to sound like a "dumb american" as I know we can sound. But I've been searching for the meaning of the red dot on the forehead. There is an amazing girl that I work with, that showed up all of a sudden with a red dot on her forehead. I don't know what it means, and I don't want to ask for fear of causing embarrassment.

By AnswerMan on Wednesday, August 18, 1999 - 03:58 pm:

Anonymous:
Traditionally Red dot signifies a married woman. But the tradition has been long lost unless this girl is practicing it. Some girls wear red dot just becuase it matches her clothes.

Generally, an unmarried woman would wear colorfull dot instead of completely Red one.

By mirror on Thursday, September 16, 1999 - 03:01 am:

Jat punjabi,
I have been a regular visitor to the pages on this site and read the interesting (whatever that means!) stuff that people send in. I was reading your posting of June 16. Elsewhere, you have often been singled out as the villain for being too loud in your opinions and for attacking certain people. At times it did seem that you were pretty immature in your approach, but reading this particular post changed my opinion. Usually, I am just too busy to post messages but this one seemed worth responding to. This one struck a cord with me. You did show a lot of maturity on this one and said something that I could identify with. Loyalty is definitely a two way street and something that I personally value very highly. I am lot more older than you and still in search of the "right person". I have fended off temptations in the hope that I will come across "that" someone who shares the same beliefs as me and that we would be the first person in each other's life. I know this will rake up the issue of virginity in many minds...but to be fair, I do not ask for anything that I can not offer. I think this is the idea you have referred in your posting elsewhere. My thought here is not to be judgemental about a different choice; just a question of match of expectations..and hope. This is is no way limited only to sexual history.
I see tons of posting opposing your views on virginity and what not but I think it is commendable for you to hold such a point of view. The true test would be when you have been through more life and still hold on to your ideas without passing judgement on others.
No strong point of views here..just comments.

By Tarzy on Thursday, September 30, 1999 - 02:37 pm:

Miss Alabama:

I have many friends (Indian) who have married African American ladies. Personally, for all the questions that you have asked, the answer is this. I have found the behavior of an Indian is very different in the US than in India. Let us just say that an Indian man strives to live like an American (except ofcourse in Cinema halls of indian movies where all of a sudden his Indian instincts act up). Chances are that he is taking his time to know you better, but I feel he will be okay with Sex as long as marriage is not a pre-condition. AS for his sons, if you still respect him after sex, believe me he will introduce you to them.All the best. Love conquers all.

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By _None on Thursday, October 21, 1999 - 05:24 am:

Hi All,

As a new memeber to this site I was going from the start to end of this page, but I felt that the discussions are good but too long,

Do you all agree with me.

By prashant on Monday, December 13, 1999 - 04:07 pm:

Hi ...am new to the site........couldnt get whether this site offers only message boards or something else also.......could someone throw some light on it.....

By Moderator on Friday, December 24, 1999 - 10:05 am:

Prashant

What are you expecting or desiring ?

Please ask questions or describe and we can help you.

By prashant on Monday, December 27, 1999 - 08:04 pm:

I would like to have fulfilling friendship with a Guju
girl leaving between Khar & Juhu in Mumbai. I am a
40 years young and not happy with married life.

By Princess on Tuesday, December 28, 1999 - 01:23 pm:

Prashant,

This isn't really a dating site or a swinging site. However you might want to talk about the problems in your married life and try to fix them rather then run away from them and complicate your life further.

By Anonymous on Tuesday, March 07, 2000 - 02:44 pm:

YES HELLO EVERYONE!
i wanted to share that i feel it is okay to date a Indian man as long as you are happy with the relationship.
I am dating a Indian man from Punjab he is wonderful and i am Latin american i feel that as long as he beliefs matches yours values then that's great good luck to all Love peace and harmony god bless!

By allo on Thursday, April 20, 2000 - 11:12 pm:

have a blast pals...
u never know when life is gonna hit u...
and then it hurts!

By ana on Tuesday, April 25, 2000 - 12:56 am:

I was browsing through the web site, and I noticed that you did not separate those profiles from the U.S. versus those from India/abroad. I think it might help and save people some time, to designate by geographical locations.

By Jatt Prince on Tuesday, April 25, 2000 - 05:09 am:

i think many such problems en dating can be solve by stopping the foul smelling gentials from smelling foul. we as indians must work togeter to stop this terrible plauge upon the women, and men who have smaller penis sizes should learn to use other sex positions to give his parter more sexy satisfactions if she dont have foul smelling genitals. good luck to all in dating.

By Indian on Tuesday, April 25, 2000 - 08:58 am:

you smell jatt prince.you are banished to teh corner with soap.

By Rita on Wednesday, April 26, 2000 - 06:51 am:

Jatt Prince,
Thanks for the advice.

To everyone else,
I think there is something of vital importance to learn from Jatt Prince's personal experiences: take a bath before sex, change positions more frequently, and stop watching MTV's Loveline.

Now can we get back to the subject at hand...

By Jat Punjabi on Saturday, May 06, 2000 - 12:09 am:

By the way, this Jatt Prince isn't really a Jatt. In fact, he isn't even an Indian. I don't think it's important to say who he is.

By senor_freak on Saturday, May 06, 2000 - 12:38 am:

why does a man prefer to fall in love with a woman
he has never seen or met, except for a few encounters over the net? in other words...are cyber relationships better than the real stuff? sometimes i wonder whether i am falling for technology or for a woman.

By suraj on Monday, May 08, 2000 - 01:39 pm:

dear friends,

i strongly believe that nothing of this world is to stop at one place. everything is going on, than why we always insist that the relationship with a person should go for a life. we always like to have different food, to visit different place, different music, movies, websites than why not relationship?

By senor_freak on Monday, May 08, 2000 - 11:29 pm:

hey suraj,
when u have different food...you taste it!
different place...you see it!
music...you hear it!
movies,websites...you watch and surf!
but a cyber-realtionship???
it leads to love...
and you dont even know other person...
isnt that (in a way) scary?

By vinay on Thursday, May 11, 2000 - 06:25 pm:

I need kannada speaking girl.

By Jatt Prince on Friday, May 12, 2000 - 05:57 am:

yes it is ture that dateing a very big issue for indians. this cantake place for more reason, and sometimes it can be as a result of foul smelling
genitals of a girl or to small a penis of a man.we must stop foul smelling genitals from smelling fouls and if boy or man have small penis then he must chang positions often to give a woman more satisfacton. the problem must be communicted to ones partner if
woman genital smell foul or man hav small penis.

By suraj2001 on Saturday, May 13, 2000 - 02:53 pm:

hi!
rohit

By kriz on Saturday, May 13, 2000 - 03:56 pm:

Hai everybody I am new member.

By kriz on Saturday, May 13, 2000 - 04:00 pm:

Hai any southindian girls

By kriz on Saturday, May 13, 2000 - 04:02 pm:

Hai jatt prince

By Shinoons on Wednesday, May 17, 2000 - 05:48 pm:

New commer , Just to say hello to all for now.

By Cuckoo on Monday, May 22, 2000 - 10:16 am:

Can some one tell me what's the real purpose of life?

By rocky on Sunday, May 28, 2000 - 03:39 pm:

hi I am from mumbai looking for all sort of relationship with females to enjoy life. Interested write to me on rock21fff@yahoo.com or post a message

By dev on Monday, May 29, 2000 - 03:19 pm:

i am 25 yrs of age.
i am from ahmedabad

i am a fun loving person looking for a nice girl to enjoy.

tell me if u r interested

thanks

By unpat on Thursday, June 01, 2000 - 08:48 pm:

hai prashant am in the same boat with u. at forty, but virile as ever. hay everybody, am a new member. have been going through the messages. don't understand onething. why do most consider bm relationships outside marriage so taboo. to me it helps in keeping marriages alive and ticking. if a man and woman, both desiring and consenting, then what is so taboo about it ? it only saves from the monotony of daily life and rather saves ur life.hey come on, if anyone of the fairer sex believe in what i say, then do let me know. it would help to reassure that am not alone with these thoughts in this world. bye.

By unpat on Thursday, June 01, 2000 - 08:50 pm:

hai prashant am in the same boat with u. at forty, but virile as ever. hay everybody, am a new member. have been going through the messages. don't understand onething. why do most consider bm relationships outside marriage so taboo. to me it helps in keeping marriages alive and ticking. if a man and woman, both desiring and consenting, then what is so taboo about it ? it only saves from the monotony of daily life and rather saves ur life.hey come on, if anyone of the fairer sex believe in what i say, then do let me know. it would help to reassure that am not alone with these thoughts in this world. bye.

By angelfreak on Saturday, June 03, 2000 - 02:31 pm:

hi everyone ...
just going thru the new site..want to talk about dressing people?? coz that's my living...

By ppal on Sunday, June 04, 2000 - 05:24 pm:

Hi Unpat. I read your message.Iam not from the fairer sex though I agree with you.Even talking to another woman makes my day come alive and i become more loving to my wife.If there is a bm relationship outside marriage I think it can make life wonderful.Why to live it monotonous.You never know your partner outside marriage might relate better at mental, soul, heart or even physically.In any case with experiences with a married partner you are more learnt and wiser. The equations with your married partner become so fixed over a period of time that one can not come out of the negative action reactions easily. With a partner outside the marriage one can easily be cautious and conscious in a natural manner
to bring to practice his or her wisdom gained due to experience.And thus change himself practically and automatically aply this change in his life and thus improve his married life.It is just like getting training outside marriage and then working on the job in marriage

All of the above is my hypothesis.Intelligent partners to validate this hypothesis are welcome

By ppal on Sunday, June 04, 2000 - 05:27 pm:

Hi Unpat. I read your message.Iam not from the fairer sex though I agree with you.Even talking to another woman makes my day come alive and i become more loving to my wife.If there is a bm relationship outside marriage I think it can make life wonderful.Why to live it monotonous.You never know your partner outside marriage might relate better at mental, soul, heart or even physically.In any case with experiences with a married partner you are more learnt and wiser. The equations with your married partner become so fixed over a period of time that one can not come out of the negative action reactions easily. With a partner outside the marriage one can easily be cautious and conscious in a natural manner
to bring to practice his or her wisdom gained due to experience.And thus change himself practically and automatically aply this change in his life and thus improve his married life.It is just like getting training outside marriage and then working on the job in marriage

All of the above is my hypothesis.Intelligent partners to validate this hypothesis are welcome

bye

ppal

By Jatt Prince on Sunday, June 04, 2000 - 11:15 pm:

unpat this is impornt. you must learn to love you wife only.many problem with cheating come from man having to small of genital. if it true then he must make sexing better by changing positions often so that they can give wife sexual plesures. if wife have foul smelling gentials then she must be told to wash and often. that can keep sex excitable and cheating away.

By Jat Punjabi on Monday, June 05, 2000 - 08:44 pm:

Jatt Prince,

What will it take for you to quit this non-sense. You keep repeating the same crap over and over again. What's wrong with you? By the way, are you really a Jatt?

By Jat Punjabi on Monday, June 05, 2000 - 10:32 pm:

All right now. Don't be stupid and write using my id. Saala Bandar di aulaad...

By Editor on Monday, June 05, 2000 - 10:45 pm:

Dear Jatt prince - ki gall hai tusi kaade vaste apna vaqt kharab karde ho - prince ji. Please write something original and interesting. You do have a good brain, dont you? Pls show your talent. Your piece is old and not humorous anymore:(
Please do not insult our moderators. Jat Punjabi is only trying to help you.

By Jat Punjabi on Monday, June 05, 2000 - 10:48 pm:

Thank you Editor Bhaji

By Jat Punjabi on Tuesday, June 06, 2000 - 02:04 am:

That was a test by the way.

chal hun pata taan lagiya ke tun punjabi hai...
punjabi ho ke punjabiyan waale kam kariya karo...
iss taraan de kam kariya karo...jihna nu dekh ke lokaan daa punjabiyan de leyi pyaar jaag utthe...na ke punjabiyan di izzat ghat jaaye...

Rab Raakha

By orindam on Sunday, June 11, 2000 - 12:28 pm:

dear friend ,
i am here to receive ur cute looking email , any girls interested in making friendship can mail me soon for reply , i am 24, male from cal...@ orindam@hotmail.com

By ihateyouall on Saturday, June 17, 2000 - 11:14 am:

hey guys guess what im female and i think you all •••• and are ••••••• losers oh but dont forget to email me though i'd love to hear from you all !!!!!!!

By ANNOYED on Sunday, June 18, 2000 - 03:11 am:

Okay people....the title of this site is "Dating Scene: Gestation to Marriage or Organized Flirting." So, why exactly are people posting dating propositions here???? This site is for people to DISCUSS dating, not to ENGAGE in dating tactics. Go to a matrimonial site and conduct your business there. All these "I'm interested in having friendship & fun" comments are truly pathetic (not to mention grammatically incorrect). Stop wasting time, and space, babbling about how you need to find someone to "share your thoughts." Here's a thought: get a life.

By ranjit singh dukhi ludhiane waale on Sunday, June 18, 2000 - 10:24 pm:

will u all souls make a sense.... r u not all fed up of seein...r u all used to sufferin all the time n r addicted to it...cant u live with urself... u hopeless bunch of mortals.... iss pe mujhe sher yaad aaya

koi ummid bar nahin aati
koi surat nazar nahin aati

aage aati thi haale dil par hasi
ab kisi baat par nahin aati

hum wahan hain, jahan se humko bhi
kucch hamaari khabar nahin aati

kaabaa kis muh se jaaoge 'Ghalib'
sharm tumko magar nahin aati

aab tak ke leye shukreya....milte hai break ke baad...
jai hind

By kamleshwar on Monday, June 19, 2000 - 12:33 pm:

how will dating help me

By Editor on Sunday, July 23, 2000 - 07:07 pm:

We have had to delete over 300 messages which simply said, " Hi I am xxx and pls contact me" etc. Is this not clear that these are Discussion boards for all of us not a space to announce our being single or lonely.

Please go to http://indiadating.com - a good site for seeking contacts.

By karthik on Saturday, July 29, 2000 - 02:33 am:

Hi,
I recently hit upon this site while surfing. The first thing i did was to go through all the archives on various topics (dating back 1 to 2 years). It was so heartening to see a level of maturity in the discussions so hard to find in other discussion forums. The people discussing the issues were genuinely interested in the topic at hand and were more than willing to extend a helping hand to people who wished to discuss real issues.
Is it not fair to say that this forum has to be restored to its former glory instead of people coming and posting one-liners just to announce to the world that they exist?

By pranay786 on Thursday, August 03, 2000 - 04:52 pm:

Hey! I am a young enterpreneur looking for somebody who can talk to me and share my feelings

By imu on Friday, August 04, 2000 - 07:50 pm:

hi tashkia
hope u fine.....
i have lot to say, but........
don't forget me
imu

By imtiaz on Friday, August 04, 2000 - 07:53 pm:

I am v-e-r-y much fond od friendship. I lookig for my life partner. write me may you are that person whom i looking for. i do believe i have good taste and i enjoy every second of my life. i have more and more to say you . so don't be delay write me now.

By agr on Friday, August 18, 2000 - 05:25 pm:

Dating according to me is very healthy provided the participants has right intentions. It can certainly be an enriching experience to spend time with an individual who shares common beliefs, thoughts, aspirations. Knowing someone with whom you are comfortable can help the individual spruce up one's life and achieve much more than what he can achieve being single. There is nothing wrong with indian men or women dating american counterparts as long there is respect and mutual liking to one anothers temperaments rather it can be an rewarding exposure. And at the end of it if it ends with having sex nothing wrong as long as it's with mutual consent and both are clear about their indulgences.

By gopi..... on Friday, September 08, 2000 - 09:49 am:

dear friend ,
i am here to receive ur email , any girls from interested in making friendship can mail me soon for reply , i am 24, male gopimuthu1777@yahoo.com

By KFPE on Monday, September 18, 2000 - 05:31 pm:

hello every one you are all beautiful at mind, heart and nature that is the finest thing which god has created in you. Please preserve it as nice human being I love you all

By Desi on Thursday, October 05, 2000 - 09:39 am:

What's with black people getting all worked up when thye're rejected by Indians? I've noticed they often cant take rejection and blame the other party for being racist. I'd like to make it clear that MOST Indians are NOT attracted to Africans, even though vice versa is true. The reasons being Indians are a highly educated, cultured and traditional society, something that can hardly be said about the larger African community.
The few exceptions to the rule exist, but they are not real Indians anyway. They're Indians who's have a western upbringing or a dysfunctional upbringing where they were not brought up with Indian morals and culture.

By Arvind on Sunday, October 08, 2000 - 10:16 pm:

Desi, you have to understand they have become accostomed to using the race card if things go against them. I've heard warnings that if Indians' don't loosen up and readily marry into other races, there may be a race war or a genocide against Indians. It's all a pile of crap I wouldn't worry about the blacks too much.

By rajagopal on Tuesday, October 10, 2000 - 04:58 pm:

what a foolish fish it is ; for it always trusts the water; that foolish does not know that it has to be cooked in the same water!!! what do you think of this????

By Desi on Wednesday, October 11, 2000 - 05:46 pm:

Nice line rajagopal, what's your point?

By janella on Friday, October 13, 2000 - 04:20 am:

Desi,

I must disagree. I don't know how to comment about the comment regarding Indians being attracted to Africans because I've never known any Africans nor been to Africa. However, SOME Indians are attracted to African AMERICAN individuals for whatever personal reason. There's a BIG difference between Africans and African Americans. Watch your verbage. And being highly educated, from a "traditional" or "cultured" society is not necessarily reason enough for some Indians to not be attracted to those in the African American community I think you were attempting to refer to. In most cases it probably comes down to personal choice. And sticking to morals has nothing to do with a western upbringing. If you are taught morals, and they are enforced on you in whatever way, you are most likely to stick with them. If not then that's your personal choice. I am an African American female and my husband is a very intelligent and educated PURE Indian. He wasn't brought up in a western manner at all. He is from and IN South India and has never experienced western culture like many Indians in India have. His decisions were based purely on personal choice.

By Desi on Friday, October 13, 2000 - 01:33 pm:

Sure, janella there's always exceptions. I'm referring to the previous posts made by a few individuals that point a finger at Indians being racist because largely Indians do not largely get involved with Africans...American or African.

By Anonymous on Thursday, November 02, 2000 - 09:43 pm:

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By Brendan on Tuesday, November 07, 2000 - 07:03 am:

I am a 24yo Indian guy in South Africa. I believe in looking at people at who they are and not at race.

A beautiful woman is still a beautiful woman no matter what her race is. Look inside somebody to find their true colours.

And don't generalise, but instead grow up.

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Leaving in bangalore since birth.
Any girl intrested please mail me and we shall take it up from there.
Best Regards,

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By Chimpu on Saturday, December 09, 2000 - 02:37 pm:

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OfCourse I am looking for frineds

By mike on Monday, December 11, 2000 - 10:59 am:

To loviguy,

Read your message. would love to talk to you. I have liked a few good guys in my life but they have rejected me after.... Now I feel very depressed and lonely as I came to know that they are very matlabi, and only want to enjoy (everything) on somebody elses cost. Currently there is a guy who wants to keep a frinedship with me but I dont like him because of his nature and character. Is it so difficult in the world to find a person who is caring, loving and understanding? Have you ever loved someone and been rejected later in life?

By SonyaK on Sunday, May 27, 2001 - 08:57 am:

"What's with black people getting all worked up when thye're rejected by Indians? I've noticed they often cant take rejection and blame the other party for being racist. I'd like to make it clear that MOST Indians are NOT attracted to Africans, even though vice versa is true. The reasons being Indians are a highly educated, cultured and traditional society, something that can hardly be said about the larger African community.
The few exceptions to the rule exist, but they are not real Indians anyway. They're Indians who's have a western upbringing or a dysfunctional upbringing where they were not brought up with Indian morals and culture. "
Okay, Desi, that message made me extremely aggravated. How DARE you insult a whole other race of people, and speak on behalf of your OWN race?! I can tell you that *I* am attracted to black guys, and I know MANY other Indian girls who feel the same way. So I just want to give you a little advice. Think before you type, and you might want to do a little research on the topic you want to discuss rather than sound like a complete fool. And "they are not real Indians anyway"...WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?! Telling me I'm not a real Indian...you don't know the entire Indian population, so how can you even think that?! Now tell me, what makes a "real Indian" in your opinion? I'm interested in knowing since my being the exception to your little rule of being attracted to black men prevents me from being Indian. You are an extremely aggravating person, and I don't even know you. Amazing. It's people like you in our Indian community that just ruin it for the rest of us. You're worse than an old buddhi gossiping about every teen in town and making judgements. I'm assuming you're young, however, if I'm wrong, please correct me.

By SonyaK on Sunday, May 27, 2001 - 08:45 am:

Hi everyone! I'm new to this site and came upon it while looking for pictures of Indian people for a school project. Anyway, I'm a 16 year old Sikh girl from Canada (born and raised here!) and I need a little advice.
My problem is that I've been seeing the most wonderful, sweetest, cutest, kindest, funniest, most genuine and most lovable person EVER for 2 years. Now, that doesn't sound like a problem, right? Well... he's white and muslim. My parents don't know anything about us and they just basically think we're we're friends. I can honestly tell you all that I am not racist nor prejudice and so I have no real problem with him. My parents however, would not be so happy about it. They themselves taught me to like and accept everyone and I mostly see them do the same thing also, but when it comes to certain people, they just show me what hypocrites they are! I don't think they would be accepting at all if they found out we were going out and loved each other. I know that this relationship is going to be a long one because the feelings I have for my boyfriend are just unreal. Now I'm sure many of you think I wouldn't know what love is because I'm 16, and I completely agree with you, I don't really know what being in love is like because I've never had my heart broken and I have never had to look back onto a relationship and realize that I was in love. It's just that these feelings I have for him are incredible and I can just see us together in the future. Marriage? Maybe. I can pitcure it, but I don't know what the future holds for me. Besides, I'm way too young to make any of those kinds of serious decisions yet. I just don't know what to do about my parents, and I don't really know how to explain to my boyfriend why I have to keep our relationship undercover around my parents. What do I do? I'd appreciate any advice from you guys if you were in the same position as me now, or were in it before. Thanks a lot, and thanks for reading my post!

By sacchaaadmi on Sunday, May 27, 2001 - 10:10 pm:

good a 16 year old sleeping with a muslim behind her parents back since she was 14. very good very open minded unbiased blah blah blah bullshitt bullshitt.
your sikh gurus are proud of you.

By CHITRESH on Monday, June 11, 2001 - 10:32 pm:

IF U CAN READ THEN EVERY PERSON IS A NOVEL.
CHITRESH MEHRA

By Salim on Tuesday, June 19, 2001 - 03:47 pm:

whoa, white and muslim, interesting combination..where is this brother from..I agree with you Sonya, our parents generally taught us, to be accepting of other people, but when it comes to their children dating or marrying someone outside, then its a different story, your young, so take it one day at a time, that's all you can really do..

By kray on Wednesday, August 22, 2001 - 12:16 am:

Hi,
I'm an African American woman who has been happily married to an American born Indian man for three years. We have a lovely five month old daughter. My daughter will one day understand very much about my culture but I also want her to become very familiar with her father's culture as well. And although her father speaks his native language to her, this is not enough. I feel that I can not give her the Indian culture as an Indian woman would because of who I am. Any suggestions please respond kindly.

By Dexter on Wednesday, August 22, 2001 - 04:37 am:

Hi kray,

One way I can tell you how your daughter can learn about her Indian heritage is to get geographical and educational tapes about India. Also, if there's a bookstore nearby, preferably Barnes and Noble or Waldenbooks, find some books about India, perhaps even tapes and books on the languages of India.

I think Barnes/Noble have a good book on the Hindi language. Now if your husband speaks another language other than Hindi, you probably find that language with English translations, including one for Hindi/English translations (if he speaks it) at amazon.com. In fact, why not have your husband teach you and your daughter his language himself. You all learn something from each other, and it's another way for you and your family to bond more.

Hope that helps,

Dexter