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Cheating and abusing wives should be punished?

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• 05/02 02:12pm Msgs: 3

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namaste and salaam.....this marraige between varied cultures is an ongoing inner war that would not cease. The most important thing for two families involved is promoting peace amongst themselves. how sad it is to say...that firstly peace comes from within....and if we dont have it ,,,,,how then can we display it.....let not difference in religeous background in a marraige be the fuel for war, but rather show godliness with peace.

hi.Your site is doing WONDERFUL.DIVORCE LAWS{The Law COMM RECOMMENDED breakdown of marriage should be a STRONG ground of DIVORCE.It suggests period of three years SEPERATION as a criterion of BREAKDOWN.Marriagelaws [AMENDMENT] Bill no 23 of 1981] was ALLOWED to LAPSE on account of OPPOSITION by WOMEN organisations. Now TIMES are changed.25 YEARS hav passed.Today WOMEN are more EDUCATED,OPEN to lively @FRESH IDEAS. Great women leaders like MADAM BRINDA KARAT should come forward with PRACTICAL NEW LAWS @Force GOVTto ACT for the WELFARE OF SOCIETY.

hi.pl RQ WOMEN ACTIVIST @Honest, pious, dedicated Ladies like Madam KARAT to come with HONEST PRACTICAL LAWS. Ensure LAWS where ELDERLY(ABOVE 70+LADIES ARE NOT TORTURED @LANGUISH in JAILS].Actual PERPETRATORS @EXTORTNIST Should be SEVERLY PUNISHED. CHANGE RQ in IPC sec 406/498A IMMEDIATELY.

pl update the MSGS sent to you. your SITE is showing 2002 MSGS. HIGH time GOVT @ JUDICIARY Recognise CHANGES in SOCIETY,MODERN THINKING OF WOMEN, INFLUENCE Of TV, WESTERN CULTURE ETC.Make DIVORCE SIMPLER.Eg.IRRETRIVABLE BREAK DOWN OF MARRIAGE.

Respected sir,
I ram singhania age 27 years , resident of pandharkawda in maharastra . my self and a girl name pooja agarwal , 25 yrs .are in love from last 5 years , we want to get married but her family was not ready for that .
1. on 24 dec, 04 we ran away from home and got married in a temple in presence of a pundit and few peoples at sunna village.
2. We went to andrapradesh as we are scared that might be her family will separate us.
3. We got the police protection in hydrabdad as her family want to take her away against her will and wish
4. We filled a joint petition in family court restraining her father to interfere in our matrimonial life
5. Family court had directed her father not to interfere in our matrimonial life
6. we had been separated under the conspiracy that her mother is not well
7. after that we had not allowed to talk to each other ,we stayed together for 25 days .
8. I filled a writ of habeas corpus in high court of andrapradesh , which had been rejected because girl had told she is staying with her family with her own will and wish
9. Her father filled appeal in high court against the order of family court which has been rejected
10. I know that the statement made by girl are under pressure
11. I got the mail and talk to her after 6 months , where she told she wants to be with me as we even started to talk on phones .
12. as we are resident of maharastra state I filled the writ of habeas corpus with nagpur bench of high court where girl had been presented and after a talk with the judges in the cabin her father told that he will get the matter settle outside the court , as after talking to all the parties judges told me to take back the case as it is a family matter and can get solved outside the court
now the matter stands as I told , the case has been withdrawal by me , I just want to know the following questions :-
1. are we legally married , as we have photographs of marriage, even the statement of the girl in the family court , news channels , written statement of the peoples who are present in out marriage .
2. what should I do if her father cheated us again
3. what are the legal rights of a husband , can a married husband / wife can stay away from the other without any legal reasons . suppose if any man got married to a girl and after a month he just tell he don’t want to stay with his wife is it a sufficient reasons in Indian law and society . I also filled a petition of restitution of conjugal rights where no one had been presented from last 6 months .
we both love each other , we want to be together but if her family don’t get ready now even what we are suppose to do and how .

Thought:- "you know so much, have all answers, claim to be more knowledgeable about GOD and a compassion representative of GOD"

#1. i don't know too much or don't even know whether GOD truly exists - that's why i'm just a simple human being - full of flaws, who observes a person and draws conclusion, unable to forgive someone if s/he hurts me.

#2. i don't claim to be a person full of compassion either - just like i mentioned earlier, i am a normal, imperfect human being who has anger, feelings, insecurity and other "not-so-palatable" qualities, unlike what you claimed to have yourself. that's why i judge people, make decisions which might be right or wrong.

#3. i DO try to be positive in my own life and about other people. then again, everything depends on certain situation or elements that have effect on my mind. hey! after all, i'm not an advisor sage by any standard!

To . (129.8.218.41),

Since, you know so much, have all answers, claim to be more knowledgeable about GOD and a compassion representative of GOD...

Why don't you contribute yourself in a positive way...and offer solutions to problems? and help eradicate or at least reduce people's heartaches. Exercise your words into actions.

Mr thought

looks like you have posted same msg everywhere. so, tell us please, where did you find that God truly exists. and, please let us know how you can live your life without judging anything or drawing any conclusion. your words might seem ideal, but they serve absolutely no purpose when it comes to facing reality. they can beg for compassion for a serial killer who might have been a subject to abuse during his childhood (hence, bringing in some reason to analyse his motive), but that doesn't negate the fact that he needs to be executed. we human beings are created as representatives of God who have been blessed with power of decision-making, unlike animals or computers, and that power has been given to us for a reason - so that we can take an environment as input and get a conclusion/decision for an output.

Some of this postings are lacking in human compassion.

All of us have hormones, biology, attraction, mystery of opposite sex, thoughts... People get carried away because of immaturity, lack of experience, judgement and curiosity.

You have not walked in their shoes...We do not know the entire circumstances and what may have caused someone else to behave the way they did.

We don't have to agree with someone's behavior but not condemn it or be soooo judgemental about it. No one is perfect. Let's all remember... Humans do not have authority to find faults and be judgemental in another human, only GOD does. We are all human... Let's try to be kind, considerate and understanding of others.

A better alternative to condemnation is to gently guide, direct, be supportive, be helpful and be their friend in time of their need.

Passing judgements, pointing fingures, blaming, putting someone down, DOES NOT solve anything use your energy and intelligence positively to correct the situation and find solutions, by not being part of a problem.

I AM A VERY HAPPILY MARRIED WOMAN (EXCEPT FOR THE FACT THAT MY HUBBY IZ IMPOTENT). I SLEEP WITH OTHER MEN ON AVERAGE ABOUT 5-7 TIMES A YEAR (YO KNOW ESPECIALLY THOSE PIZZA-BOYS FROM TURKY AND FUKI_LAND ARE MY FAVORITE). HAVING BEEN DOING SO FOR THE PAST 10 YRS (MY COLLECTION BOASTS FORESKIN FROM AT LEAST 400 MEN). WHY NOT ENJOY YOURSELF (TRY FETTISH FOR MORE FUN). YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE PLUS THEY ARE NOT GOING TO FIND OUT AS DESI BOYS ARE DUMB (AS THEIR BRAIN USUALLY HANGS BETWEEN LEGS)!!!

I AM A VERY HAPPILY MARRIED MAN. I SLEEP WITH OTHER WOMEN ON AVERAGE ABOUT 5-7 TIMES A YEAR. HAVING BEEN DOING SO FOR THE PAST 10 YRS. WHY NOT ENJOY YOURSELF. YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE PLUS THEY ARE NOT GOING TO FIND OUT AS DESI GIRLS ARE DUMB!!!

Rajiva,
i know ur a whore and silly bitter cow, thats enough i think!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yo unca : there are more indian men married to white women than indian girls married to white doods

>from India Abroad, we find that 15% indian guys are married to white women and 8% indian girls got married to white guys. BUT, DID IT MENTION THE GENDER IMBALANCE AMONGST INFLUX OF FOBs? i doNOT think so!
Y DON;T YOU TRY TO PRESENT SOME DATA ON THAT?

Yo unca :Many of them are looking for some exotic piece of azz. They can tap it all they want before they dump you for a white girl. I have friends like that. I know MANY desi girls who have been played by white doodz.

> so do the indian boys. whats the difference? lots of white and indian girls are being played by indian guys. Im sure ya also know MANY desi/pherengi girls like that!

rajiva:

send it to me. I'll send u mine too. ive sent mine to nimi and indiana.

read my below post carefully. i want yer permission before i get to see pic

raj

dont trust u with my photo, id rather send it to a female poster here who can be trusted.
i may send it, well see

nks,

oh they know me huh? and how would that be you idiot?!
u know nothing about me, not even my real name :-)

By Raj Chopra on Thursday, August 15, 2002 - 01:48 am:


fair enough rajiva....

yo_unca@yahoo.com

Btw, I never said you would have probs getting some white dood. Many of them are looking for some exotic piece of azz. They can tap it all they want before they dump you for a white girl. I have friends like that. I know MANY desi girls who have been played by white doodz.

But anyways, whatever it is...you don't need to justify or prove anything here. If you like white guys, go for it. Nobody is stopping you, because truthfully nobody carez. Only the sad pathetic losers locked up in their parents basement probably care.>>>>>


Okay faggot, here is the fuking post.

REad the last paragraph.

I'm telling her " GO MARRY WHITE GUYS IF YOU WANT. NONE OF US INDIAN GUYS CARE. EXCEPT FOR LOSERS LOCKED IN THEIR PARENTS BASEMENT.


Now where do I fuking say that anybody who sticks with their culture is a loser? What kind of fuking m0ron are you? You must be a fob. poor reading comprehension

killed husband freed in U.S.


Canadian Press


Saturday, February 2, 2002 – Print Edition, Page A6


SASKATOON -- A Saskatchewan woman who was jailed for killing her husband from an arranged marriage has been released from a U.S. jail.

Alpna Patel called relatives to say she was preparing to return to Saskatoon, set up a dental practice and begin her life again after being released from prison, a family member said. He didn't want to give his name for fear of being deluged by reporters.

"I can't believe it, just can't believe it," the relative told the Saskatoon StarPhoenix. "Nobody knew. It was a surprise to all of us."

The relative said the woman's parents, Dev and Kanin Amin, were not ready to comment.

Ms. Patel's release was confirmed yesterday by an employee at the Maryland Correctional Institution for Women.

Ms. Patel, 29, spent 18 months in jail for stabbing her 26-year-old husband, Viresh, to death in March, 1999. Court heard that she killed him to escape an unhappy marriage that had been arranged by their parents. She was found guilty of manslaughter in October, 2000, and given a three-year sentence.

Prosecutors said she stabbed her husband in a rage at their modest one-bedroom Baltimore apartment. He had fallen asleep while she pleaded with him to save their marriage. Ms. Patel, a dentistry graduate from the University of Saskatchewan, was covered in blood and sitting at the kitchen table when police arrived.

The conviction came seven months after her first trial, in which another Baltimore jury acquitted her of first-degree murder and was unable to reach a decision on a charge of second-degree murder.

Viresh Patel, originally from Buffalo, N.Y., was a surgical resident at Baltimore's Union Memorial Hospital.